Why is it that we allow our boyfriends privileges that are not theirs to take? Why do we give them rights that only a husband can have? Why do we let them have a ‘preview’ of what marriage would look like?
I think that many of us have confused the word boyfriend with husband. THEY ARE NOT THE SAME THING! I’m sorry to be the barrier of bad news, but just because he’s your boyfriend, that doesn’t mean he gets husband privileges. He isn’t your husband. Yet. (or maybe not ever.)
What’s the difference between a husband and a boyfriend? So I took the liberty and looked up the definition of both:
A boyfriend is a male acquaintance or romantic companion whereas a husband is a married man. (dictionary definition, not mine.)
However the time we live in now, words are constantly being redefined. I would try to cut you some slack, but the definition didn’t vary that far from the Bible’s definition of the word. When you read the Bible, you come to define a husband as “a married man considered in relation to his wife.”
One thing is consistent between the definitions, a husband is a MARRIED man. Your boyfriend isn’t your husband because you are not married. You may be five steps ahead of me in your head, with a home and 3 kids but you are not his wife. Its safe to say that guys don’t think the same way as us. Most guys like to live in the moment whereas we like to have our future planned. Just because he treats you like a wife, as if you were the most important person in the world, that still doesn’t give him husband rights.
A husband will be with you no matter what. He pledged to spend the rest of his life with you on the day you said “I DO.” When he says something, he means it (well for the most part). A boyfriend can say a lot of things but in the end none of them really matter because who is going to hold him to that? You?
A husband is stuck with you (though this could be interpreted either way). When you get in an argument, you work it out. However, when you get in an argument with your boyfriend, there’s a 50 percent chance you won’t be seeing him again. (In gf/bf situation, you can leave whenever you want and find ‘someone better’ as they like to say. Bye Felicia. Good luck trying to find a catch like me)
Like I previously mentioned, a boyfriend can leave when the going gets tough. For some of them, they consider it a ‘trial run.’ Like excuse me?! A trial run?? What am I suppose to act like a wife to you now, so you’ll have an idea of what it would be like actually being married to me? Then if you don’t like it just walk away? Yea okay, sorry buddy but not happening. A husband is still going to be there when things get rough, right along side of you, helping you out.
There’s a big difference between being in a gf/bf relationship and being married. When you’re married, your husband (and yourself included) chose to commit to you and you alone. In a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, he can claim that he’s committed to you but you can never be too sure.
If a guy claims to really love you, its inevitable that at some point down the road, he will pop the question. That’s the real difference between a husband and a boyfriend. A husband will know what he has and wouldn’t want to risk losing it, that’s one of the reasons people get married. A boyfriend is unsure, he doesn’t know if he wants you in the future but for now, you’re better than him being single.