I’m sure I’m not the only one who digs a good story. As Christians we are given the chance to share God’s story with others, though it doesn’t always happen this way. All too often, instead of sharing God’s story with the world, we tell someone else’s. Half the time, it’s not even the correct version. We just pass on what we hear and add a little twist to make it more interesting. But the thing is, it’s not just a story. It may as well be one for you, since you’re the author of it, but it’s definitely not to the main character of your story.
It’s sad to say that I’ve experienced this first hand being the main character in one of these stories. It was pretty interesting to hear new things about myself that I didn’t even know. I was made aware of my ‘so-called hobbies’ and just things in general that made me want to get up, pack a bag and run. If I was the girl from the story, I would be long gone by now. But that’s just it, I’m NOT her. We may have the same name but that’s about all we have in common, well except for the authors. Whoever came up with these stories, we both know them in one way or another. If you think saying something now and then isn’t really a big deal, then you’ve got another thing coming. What you’re doing is called GOSSIP. It’s a sin and a very destructive one at that ruining the reputation of good people. You may think that it’s harmless but let me tell you, your so-called ‘harmless talk’ has a victim. The main character of your story is the victim. They have to live with these rumors, they have to carry these rumors behind them like dead weight because of YOU.
The Bible uses the words ‘a whisper’ and ‘busybodies’ to describe people who meddle in business which doesn’t pertain to them. 1 Timothy 5:13 says the following “and besides they learn to be idle, wandering about from house to house, and not only idle but also gossip and busybodies, saying things which they ought not.” You do know that gossip is empty, pointless talk, which often; more times than not, isn’t completely factual, don’t you? And you do realize that when we gossip, we enter into the very nature of the devil?
When one spreads gossip, they don’t really stop to think about the other persons reputation and how they’re playing a key role in ruining it. Most if the time, the one sharing the information hasn’t bothered to check the facts, which mostly get distorted for the sake of spicing things up; keeping things interesting. On top of that, if the person who is sharing the information, knows that it’s not completely true and their motive for sharing the information is to damage the reputation of the other person, then it moves from gossip to slander. In case you didn’t know, slander means to give an evil report about someone or to speak against someone. James wrote in the book of James chapter 4, verses 11 through 12, ‘that if we do this, then we make ourselves the judge of both our brother and God’s law, usurping God’s rightful place.’
For way too long, we rationalized and tolerated gossip because we didn’t see it as a ‘bad’ sin compared to other sins like robbery. But it’s time we open our eyes. We need to see the destructive power of our tongues and what kind of damage we can do if we don’t control what we say.
If you hear something about someone, go ask them first if it’s true or not before you believe it and pass it on. Like I already said, this happened to me the other day. When I first heard it, I was truly upset and sat down, and though hard about what I’ve done that could have led me to be the victim of one of these destructive stories. But I’ve now realized, it’s not MY fault. I’m not going to sit here and try to analyze my life to see where I went wrong. It shouldn’t be me looking over my life but the author of this story.
“But I say unto you, That every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgement.” Matthew 12:36 You may think you have the right to say whatever you want and that no one will find out that it was you who started these rumors, but someone does know. God knows. You can’t hide from Him. You think you can get away with it? You might get away with it now, but come judgement day, you WILL give and account for EVERY idle word you’ve spoken in you’re life. Best keep that in mind.
So whoever out there is writing stories, this is for you:
“Stop using my name and my life to make yours a little bit more interesting. It brings tears to my eyes because I know that you call yourself a Christian. Yet you don’t behave like one. You behave as someone whose never really known Christ. I’m glad that you think I’m the perfect candidate for the starring role of your stories but let’s be clear, I’m really not that special. As Christian’s, it is our duty to share the story of Christ with Him at the center and in the starring role. Our job isn’t to share someone else’s story and spin it to our liking. Next time you’re about to repeat something about someone, Keep that it mind.